The answer really lies in a more important question: what was your sex life like before your wife hit menopause? If it was great then it’ll be great (just with some work which I know you are up for). If your answer was it sucked then I hate to tell you, it’s not just going to suck, it’s going to get worse.
But even for those where the sex was really good, when menopause rears its ugly head, sometimes this treasure of yours is now locking the bedroom door and banishing you to the sofa to sleep. First of all, that may be a good thing as the bed is apt to get soaked during a particularly bad hot flash. And, seriously, you may want to have a Plan B for sleeping if the situation is this bad. This won’t diminish your love life; it just means you’ll both sleep better.
Back to the work a little harder bit: if the sex was good then keep doing all of the things you did so well before, plus some. For those where it wasn’t good, take a few notes.
All fun tips aside, we all have to respect what our bodies are telling us and not be afraid to share problems. Women hate to talk about sex problems and no more so when they feel their body is failing them. It’s often not known that creams, gels, inserts don’t just solve the problem, they actually enhance orgasms. Don’t let the squeamishness of not wanting to talk about this stuff not let you talk about this stuff. I’m getting squeamish just writing it but they are unavoidable if you want to continue to create a passionate life together. By the way, that passionate life together may involve different ways of meeting each other’s needs. It’s keeping an open mind to exploring new possibilities that is important. Remember, if you need a
neutral party to figure this all out, contact me! I am here to help.
And for those of you whose sex lives sucked then I know there were problems with your marriage long before menopause came along. A few, fun tips aren’t going to solve anything for you or your marriage. Please keep in mind that you deserve a whole and happy life. It’s just not so easy to figure out what the problems are and how to fix them. If you are willing to talk about them and to want to make a change then I hope you contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org for a free consultation. I am definitely here to help! I also would love your thoughts and comments on the subject at Partner Support for Menopausal Wives, https://www.facebook.com/groups/292877614958533/.
Christine Caldwell Coaching
Christine Caldwell is a certified Neuro-Linguistic Programming coach, and has completed both the Robbins-Madanes Core 100 and Core 200 coaching programs. Additionally, Christine has 30 years’ experience as a sales and marketing executive, business owner and career counselor. For more information go to: www.christinecaldwellcoaching.com.